Being Married in the Indian Culture

 


In India, Marriage is not only a union of a boy and a girl but the union of two families. Arrange marriage is the widely accepted way of marriage here. The families try to find the best match for their sons or daughters. If they come to know about the potential partner for their son/daughter, they first show their Kundlis (Birth chart in Vedic astrology) to their respective pandit (hindu priests), when the kundlis match only then the boy and the girl can marry. Also, they both should be from the same caste. The Societal status of the families should be equivalent. These are just some of the rules for the arrange marriage. The boy and girl get some time of like two to three months to know each others likes, dislikes, preferences, etc. so that they can get along well before marriage.

The Indian wedding is a grandeur event organised together by both the families. A lot of money is devoted in the preparations like dresses, jewelry, decorations, music and dance events, catering, etc. There are a number of rasams (rituals) performed before the marriage which may go on for at least four to five days. All the relatives and friends come together to celebrate. Families try to make it as magnificent as possible for them.


There are a lot of changes through which both the girl and the boy goes through after marriage. The girl has to adapt with the culture of her husbands family. Over time, she has to learn to take care of her husband and in laws. The responsibility of the boy doubles as he has to be more mature and sensible to support his family. In India, family values are very significant and one must follow them.

Getting married is the biggest decision of a person's life. When a person thinks that he is ready for marriage, he should understand that it is not always a bed of roses. Some TV Shows, movies showcase it as a very joyful and happily ever after type where the couple is madly in love with each other with wide smiles on their faces but this is not true. A happy marriage is not only about having fun, it involves a lot of co-operation, understanding, responsibilities, and support of each other. There are times when you both may not agree with each other which may lead to conflicts, there might be misunderstandings as well. Those are the phases in which you both have to listen to each other and sort out very calmly. You must have the ability to understand each others flaws and work on them together.


In a happy and successful marriage, the couple deals with every situation together, it is not husband vs wife but the couple vs the situation. Understand that you cannot be overly possessive in a healthy relationship, give some freedom to each other and never break trust. You must never take your spouse for granted, have respect for their decisions and support them through thick and thin. When you accept each other, there will be more love and connection and more happy moments to spend.

Remember, Giving time to each other and creating a balance between the work life and the personal life is very important.

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